Candle Spells: To Liberate Yourself from Unhealthy Love

Candle spells are one of the best ways to free yourself from a negative relationship. One of the first things most people think of when a lover leaves them is "How can I get them back?". Unfortunately, this is not always possible, and is often not in the best interest of either person.

If you are in this situation, you should ask yourself why you want them back. If your concern is financial or for your children, you can try the Get Child Support spell. If the problem is a lack of passion in the relationship, try one of the many Passion Spells available. Arguments and old mistakes driving a wedge into the relationship may require Reconciliation.

Most of the time, however, people who have been in a serious relationship for a long time are simply afraid of being alone. If you think you are just afraid to be alone, try this unbinding spell to free yourself from this unhealthy desire. This spell will also work if you think you are under a Coercive Love Spell.

Candle Spells: Letting go of a Lost Love

You will need:

• An unused Black Candle, large enough for you to carve a few words on and wide enough to stand on its own - votive candles work well
• An Athame or other carving tool
• A Broken length of chain (if this is from something your ex gave you, even better)
• Uncrossing Oil or Banishing Oil (you can substitute Pine or Cedar if these are not available)
• A photograph of your ex, or a small paper with their name written on it
• A disposable dish or hard surface that you can easily remove wax from

What to do:

Begin by carving the name of the person you want to be released from. Also carve the words "Good-bye", "I release you" and/or "I am Free". The more the words reflect your intent (not your current feelings), the more effective the spell will be. I have used " their name is gone from my life" with good effect.

Anoint the candle with the oil of your choice. Use only a few drops, rubbing gently from the top to the bottom of the candle. This is how you should anoint (or dress) all candles used in candle spells. Put the candle on the dish or hard surface without a holder (You will be disposing of the candle, excess wax and chain at the end of the spell).

Wrap the broken chain around the base of the candle with the broken side facing you. If you need to, you can easily break a bracelet chain using a pair of cutting pliers.

Light the candle. As it burns, visualize yourself as happy and free from this person (or emotion). Chant (repeat with intent) the phrase that you carved onto the candle. If you feel the urge to, feel free to cry, curse, or do anything else to vent your feelings as long as you 1) do not disturb the candle or chain and 2) do not harm yourself or anyone nearby. After you vent your emotions, return to your chant.

When the candle is burned about halfway down, light the paper or photograph using the candle flame. Allow the paper to burn completely. Keep the ashes near the candle and chain. Put out the candle by either smothering it in the ashes, or by snuffing it with the blade of your Athame. Never blow out candles used in candle spells.

When you have finished with the ritual, bury the candle, ashes, chain and excess wax as soon as possible. It is ideal, but it is not necessary, to do so at a crossroads or graveyard. Do not trespass or use government property for this without permission.

After the ritual is complete and everything is buried, take a cleansing bath to was away the emotions of the ritual. You may want to use bath salts or oils. Eucalyptus is exceptionally cleansing.

If you feel the need, you can repeat this ritual, omitting the chain, to continue to clear your emotions. If the ritual is not working, you may need to shield yourself from their influence. If they are still a part of your life, it will be more difficult to do so; if possible, remove yourself from their life entirely.

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